Let me share a story with you. It goes like this:
"Does this outfit make me look fat?" she asked
me while looking herself over in a mirror. I ignored her
question and asked her where the car keys were. The keys
were in my hand, but I was trying to change the subject.
"I don't know. Check the kitchen table." she
Whew! That was a close one.
"So does it?"
"Shit!" I thought to myself. "Found the keys
Hon, I'm gonna warm up the car."
"Hold it! I asked you a question. Aren't you listening
"Huh? What?" I asked.
"This dress. Does it make me look fat?"
"I'm sure it looks lovely. I'm gonna..."
"You're not even looking at me! Come here!"
I walked over to her and stood behind her staring at her
image in the mirror. God how I loved her. My love for her
was unconditional. I would love her no matter what. Fat,
thin, bald, or blind. It wouldn't matter because I whole
heartedly and honestly loved her. Maybe too honestly.
"Well does it?" she asked.
"No honey, the fat makes you look fat."
People say honesty is the best policy. I say bullshit to
that! Honesty got me kicked out of my place for about a
week. So, I say, lie your ass off - just don't get caught.
If you do get caught, deny everything, admit nothing, demand
proof, stick to your story, and take it to your grave.
Telling lies to save the feelings of someone you love is OK
in Stu's book, but never cheat on or steal from them.
My first thought to your question was.. Is your name The
Sun? Therefore, the world revolves around you? If you had to
ask that question only one thing could have happened...you
did something that made you (and only you) happy regardless
of how it would matter to someone else. But then I thought
(two thoughts in one day, a new record) this person could
know something that was going to happen or was said about
the one they love. This doesn't make the person self
centered, just inconsiderate.
If you are in the first category you really need to ask
yourself...do I truly love that person. For example, nothing
is more bogus (and painful) then when the person you love
tells you...."Oh, me and her are just friends,"
"I love you honey," "she is just one of the
guys." Then you turn the corner and see him with his
hands all over her. If you really didn't want to hurt that
person you never would have done it anyway.
Then there is always the light hearted lie. Everyone
knows your significant other doesn't have the body to pull
off that outfit, but you continue to let them wear it,
looking stupid , embarrassing themselves. Everyone is only
laughing at the person. You are clever enough to use a
computer you can be clever enough to lose the outfit for
them, then no lie has to ever enter the picture. When you
lie, the truth will eventually come forward and bite you in
the butt (unless you have $$ to pay off people or hire a
high priced lawyer).